Understanding & Respecting Teens- Part 2

Parents/Guardians to do that because they have seen things influenced by their childhood memories and they have the power to forbid their children to do what they really want to do. Teens nowadays are not usually happy and complain when their parents start a discussion and they keep intending on repeating the same things all over and over again.

They have to understand that teens need to be given a chance to present there side of the problem and express their own point of view. And they also might need additional time to think about how to work on the problem, rather than jumping to conclusions, deciding what you think is right for them, which is not. Well of course, thers no foul on being concerned nor protective but as a parent , you should think “What if…” or “How would you feel if…” before making a decision which will affect them.

A son was going to the kitchen and have a glass of water when suddenly, he drop the glass and broke into pieces, His father came to see what was that all about, as soon as his father saw what happened, The father started shouting, insulting him, and Abusing his own son.

Well, There will be no Discussion if parents are challenging, Insulting, Threatening or hostile. Keeping calm will help teens to do the same and eventually it will encourage them more to open and level-headed conversation. Nowadays, They think that their children should not be given freedom until they have already found a job and can live independently. Teenagers needs freedom to experience life, and information to make informed decisions by themselves.

Now this is going to sound crazy and most parents would really disagree especially in the Asian contries. In order for your child to respect you, You as a parent needs to respect them first, because parents who respect them are truly respected in return. Every teenager is a unique individual and that parents have to accept their teens the way they are, and celebrate their personalities and interests rather than overlooking or being ashamed of them. They should find time to listen to their teens and respect what they are going through.

Another good thing is to encourage teens to discuss important matters/issues during dinnertime, cause spending dinnertime together is one of the best opportunities for family communication. But there are some issue/problems that teens may not want to discuss or share. This also must be taken into consideration and accepted by parents.

To Be Continued…