Understanding & Respecting Teens- Part 1
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Understanding & Respecting Teens- Part 1
by FallenAngel23 Wed Oct 20, 2010 10:46 pm
Understanding & Respecting Teens- Part 1
To Be Continued….
Dealing with teen years can be really hard and confusing for both teenagers and their parents in the same way. Very often at about 18 yrs old and above, many teens go through a tough period of being introspective and moody. It is a time when they seem to start thinking about how they feel about themselves and figuring out how this perception may match or mismatch with what others think of them. Well, it is all part of growing up and maturing.
But very often teenagers are treated as if they were just grown-up children. Most parents are (especially mine) convinced today that children are their property and should obey their commands at all times without saying a single word.Well, it might work on toddlers but not a 18yr old Son or Daughter. The role of the parents is to assist a child into becoming an independent and responsible adult. Therefore, this will never happen if a teenager is not allowed to make some decisions on their own. And stopping them from what they do best or not respecting their children’s wants/needs in life.
We teenagers today are often thought of as insecure, stubborn and disrespectful. Even the most caring parents frequently misunderstand their kids. Indeed we teenagers tend to be much more complex than you have imagine but we are also not impossible to understand. Well not many parents take into considerations that not every teens has in mind to upset the society. Few parents/Guardians realize that the teenage years are crucial times when it comes to learning to be more responsible and dependent. And as a result, teenagers often run-away from homes, do drugs, smoke, drink or even go to clubs at a very young age. and began turning to their piers and distance themselves from their parents.
Sometimes parents go overboard with their children like not allowing them to go to their friends party, Dating with other race, Forcing their children to stay home and study, or locking them up and not trying such activity. Well to tell you the truth, That is totally absurd. Teenagers have the right to freedom which is stated in HUMAN RIGHTS LAW.
But very often teenagers are treated as if they were just grown-up children. Most parents are (especially mine) convinced today that children are their property and should obey their commands at all times without saying a single word.Well, it might work on toddlers but not a 18yr old Son or Daughter. The role of the parents is to assist a child into becoming an independent and responsible adult. Therefore, this will never happen if a teenager is not allowed to make some decisions on their own. And stopping them from what they do best or not respecting their children’s wants/needs in life.
We teenagers today are often thought of as insecure, stubborn and disrespectful. Even the most caring parents frequently misunderstand their kids. Indeed we teenagers tend to be much more complex than you have imagine but we are also not impossible to understand. Well not many parents take into considerations that not every teens has in mind to upset the society. Few parents/Guardians realize that the teenage years are crucial times when it comes to learning to be more responsible and dependent. And as a result, teenagers often run-away from homes, do drugs, smoke, drink or even go to clubs at a very young age. and began turning to their piers and distance themselves from their parents.
Sometimes parents go overboard with their children like not allowing them to go to their friends party, Dating with other race, Forcing their children to stay home and study, or locking them up and not trying such activity. Well to tell you the truth, That is totally absurd. Teenagers have the right to freedom which is stated in HUMAN RIGHTS LAW.
To Be Continued….
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Re: Understanding & Respecting Teens- Part 1
by khars Thu Oct 21, 2010 8:45 pm
well very well said and point well taken but still as their child or children we must obey them unless we have something that we can prove to them...i know what you feel cause sometimes i felt the same way too but the point is you still need them in able to survive unless your capable to have your own life and go on with your own.
the children must do is try to open their hearts and mind to their parents and try to understand them not try but u must understand your parents/guardians and try to reach out with them and open up with them in vice versa parents/guardian must reach out too with their children and try to adopt the generation of their children and stop comparing with them because your children just need you understanding, attention,especially guidance in order to be a better person in the future and especially they just need your love that's it..then everything will fall into right places.
the children must do is try to open their hearts and mind to their parents and try to understand them not try but u must understand your parents/guardians and try to reach out with them and open up with them in vice versa parents/guardian must reach out too with their children and try to adopt the generation of their children and stop comparing with them because your children just need you understanding, attention,especially guidance in order to be a better person in the future and especially they just need your love that's it..then everything will fall into right places.
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